I have always believed that communication is such a powerful tool to enjoy many good things. Will try to give my opinion rather than asking question this time and i am going to make this post a very simple one... hope u guys enjoy reading it... Thats the fun of it as i always believed...
Being a part of a very dynamic group of friends I have witnessed the impact of small things being said and its consequences and the after math of big dramatic events which have taken place around me. Some of which have me involved and some that i dont (perhaps because i chose to keep out of it). What has always amazed me is that how each individual prioritizes various aspects in his life (life in a manner he has understood it) in different ways irrespective of how logical or emotionally critical they can be. They way each person reacts to judgments and their fear of others' judgments. Sometimes i have seen that this fear of what others might say or basically judge is what actually drives the negative dynamic force in them.
To share the way in which i perceive this link between communication gap and the fear of being judged by others is what i wanted to always talk about or discuss. Now since i can use blogs to convey the message i find my self very glad to do so.
As i was saying when a person feels judged it cuts to the core of his/her self image as being good, competitive and/or worthy. To encounter such identity abrasions one denies expressing his/her feelings, avoid difficult conversations, more often than not react angrily and the funniest of all is that they seek advice only to confirm their innocence. So basically as i see it, such kind of behavior is only to gain self protection.
Now the effect is even more hilarious! Only because their priorities have all been messed up but yet they sincerely believe that it hasn't. Basically only on retrospection they seem funny, as against actually experiencing negative forces bouncing about around you or so close to you. When the Self protection drive is high as i was mentioning in it earlier, and ends up becoming more important then the work or relationship with others loose out. All this makes 'LIFE' for them so difficult and really tough to do or solve problems creatively together. Basically ending up with harsh experiences that making them vent out their anger. Again just to seek some empathy or perhaps sympathy. Just communicate and be free to express and things will just be fine....
